i show myself and let the shame do its thing

2024, may 18

i'm confused. i keep hearing the suggestion to simply let go of shame. to drop the shame when performing, promoting, or sharing emotional turmoil. this advice comes from people who usually advocate for embracing all feelings. so why are they against shame in particular? they probably mean well, suggesting you shouldn't let shame hold you back from showing up where it matters to you. and i agree, it would be nice to simply switch the shame off, but sometimes the shame keeps firing up no matter what. instead of trying to eliminate it, i find it easier to say yes to the bothness of it: i let the shame do its thing while i’m showing myself.